A couple of days ago I realised it had been a very, very long time since I’d sat down and properly filled you all in on where Joe and I were at with our wedding planning…
Having spoken about it somewhat endlessly with family and friends (and, well, anyone who will listen) it’s easy to assume you’ve told the world and their wife that you’ve selected canapés, dried some confetti and spotted flower girl dresses when you were last in Marks and Sparks.
But with this week marking a year since we got engaged (!), I’ve struggled to quite believe how quickly time has gone, even more so since our original plan was to get married in September! Suddenly I feel very behind indeed- even if one thing I’ve learnt is that you’ll both do things in your own time. I know people getting married around the same time as us next year and it’s so easy to go into panic mode when you see someone has their dress, flowers and bridesmaids sorted when you’ve just about started a Pinterest board- but really, don’t fret- it will come together.
Anyway- I feel like I’ve learnt so much since we started planning, and although I covered certain things in this video, thought I’d pop a post together to expand on some things and update you with others, as things can really move quite quickly when you get the ball rolling.
If I’m being honest, I was really struggling to get a grip on everything and knowing how and when to tick things off and knowing when I should be getting things done by when it came to planning. Although I had a couple of really helpful planners, I absolutely fell in love with Bridebook, a site I stumbled across when trying to find a way of organising our guest list- and it’s not let me down yet. With options to put in your budget, guest list (including RSVP’s and whether they’re day or night guests), it’s such a great resource for knowing when you should start pulling your socks up- from remembering when you should give notice by to sending out save the dates too.
The venue was probably the first thing Joe and I thought about- and after realizing what our priorities were (normally it’s between capacity, location and the freedom you want when it comes to food, decoration and utilizing the space) we settled on our dream venue about twenty minutes away from home- as having it in London with everyone there was something we both mutually agreed on. Naturally, where you decide to get married impacts everything from cost, space and everything in between- there are very few London venues that hold a lot of people, and a lot (unless dry hire) will come with a big recommended suppliers list, meaning that things like food and floristry can be governed by that too- which can be a help, or hinderance, depending on which way you look at it. Thankfully for us, although there is a suppliers list- we still have a reasonable amount of flexibility, so if anything it’s made narrowing down suppliers for caterers easier.
The Guest List:
Which leads me nicely on to this big ‘un- the guest list. Having a really strict capacity meant we unfortunately had to be strict with our invitations too. If it was up to me (and money was no object) I’d have the DPD man, postie and lady who does my nails- but narrowing it down has probably been the hardest thing for us- and totally made us realise why people do super intimate weddings or, elopements- because it’s unlikely you’ll manage to include or please everyone when it comes to it. A wedding invite isn’t the be all and end all of a relationship though, and it’s only having one myself that I’ve realised how much these things cost (and how many venues have small capacities), and if you don’t make the cut it’s certainly not a choice that was taken lightly.
Ah! THE DRESS! I feel like this is (hopefully) going to be the next thing I’m going to tick off, as it’s certainly been a while coming! Although there hasn’t necessarily been the tears, screaming and claps that you’re told come with finding the ONE, it’s been such a pleasure trying on some of the most gorgeous dresses with some of the women I love most in my life, and although I’ve tried a lot on, to be perfectly honest- I’ve liked a lot too. Like a lot of things in life, I don’t think there’s ever one ‘right’ thing, especially for an indecisive gal like me! But I’ve finally tried on a couple I felt truly like myself in, and I’m so excited to see what my next dress appointment holds.
And last but not least- suppliers! We finally have our photographers ticked off and through their list of suppliers found an amazing print and design studio for our invitations too. I’ve found looking at sites like Rock My Wedding super helpful and have scoured Instagram more than Pinterest when it came to the smaller details- collections on there is a total godsend. It’s worth looking at wedding photographers, and seeing the different suppliers they’ve worked with- and similarly scouring Instagram for this too. I’ve found Pinterest a brilliant resource, but sometimes a little overwhelming- so there and wedding magazines (from Brides to Together Journal) have all been excellent.
At the end of the day, last night I said to Joe that over and above everything, what I really wanted was for our big day to be was a big party for our family and friends that everyone could (hopefully) remember forever (or a really long time at least). A big old love in of sorts and just a special day for everyone, and not just us. I can’t wait to keep you updated on the rest of the planning as it happens- 8 MONTHS TO GO!